Retail therapy

Retail therapy is a phrase I heard not to long ago and it made perfect sense to me. I will admit that I love shopping, it’s been a long time coming admitting my addiction, but it’s the truth and I choose to no longer live behind the veil. I absolutely adore it and could spend oodles of time doing it, if my life weren’t so busy with work and other higher priorities.

Alas, it is and I certainly haven’t had as much chance lately to imbibe on one of my favorite passions. The beginning of this year has seemed to go at a break-neck pace and there have been lots of things in my life that have been up-in-the-air, so to speak. My husband got a new job, for one thing at the end of January, and although that would seem like a wonderful thing, my job still requires me to work nights and weekends so I’m still trying to figure out how we can actually have time off together to do the things that we really want to do.

Of course, there’s also been the lovely weather, that I know has plagued the majority of the country for the last two months. Now, it seems, that we are still in the throes of it’s icy grip, not wanting to let go of winter. I, for one, have had it with the cold, dreary, weather. This is why last Friday afternoon was ripe for a type of retail therapy that I really enjoy.

I love all kinds of shopping: clothes, tools, furniture, consignment, vintage, automobile, antiques, books, etc., etc. However, my most favorite type of shopping involves finding that elusive bargain and then bringing my wares home and dumping them all on the living room floor, and pretending I’m like a big-overgrown kid again, looking at all of my new-found goods.

Basically, I discovered a new consignment shop last Friday afternoon called “Great Comebacks” and quickly realized that several items were just jumping off the racks at me as I pored over each and every article of clothing in the store. Yes, clothes often do this to me, they just leap off the rack into my arms or a cart I am pushing along. I don’t know what possesses them to do such a thing but it happens nonetheless and then I am forced to greet the clerk at the register to check out my items once the melee is all finished.

Now, you may be thinking that shopping can really be an addiction for some people and that perhaps I should seek help. No, in all sincerity, I do not actually have a shopping addiction. In fact, it had been quite some time since I had bought much of anything in the way of clothes for myself.

The truth is that I had a very frustrating, trying day at work the day before and I just needed some alone time to sort through some things. Better yet, I really do think of shopping as being therapy in a sense as I don’t always have to buy anything. There have been many cases when I just went in a store just to lose myself in the moment and not to think about anything else overwhelming at that moment.

So, this “retail therapy” is a good thing but in small quantities, of course. I would never advocate spending more than what you have or racking up thousands of dollars in credit card debt. In that sense, shopping is not so smart. With anything in life, use your head and don’t get in to deep, whether it’s shopping or something else.

Always, always, have a backup plan too. In my case, I just needed to talk some things over with a few unbiased people to try to get a handle on how I should handle my work situation. Do I still really know what I am going to do yet? Well, no, not completely, but I am getting closer to the right answer.

Retail therapy, it’s a good thing….

The 10 life lessons I’ve learned from the movie “Cars….”

Well, it’s still January and colder than ever outside. I will be glad when this month ends. Yes, I know I shouldn’t wish my life away but I really don’t like cold weather and the sooner we get January out of the way, the sooner we can get to Spring. Just thinking about it makes me really happy as I very much prefer warm days and nights to below zero temps like we’ve had lately in Kentucky.

However, in the meantime, until it reaches Spring and I start to hear the little birds chirping away, I will be holed-up in my comfortable home watching movies in my spare time. You see, my husband and I really don’t care to go to the movie theaters anymore because of many reasons. The primary one being that I deal with the public each and every day and the last thing that I want to do when I get home from doing that is to go right back out and be amongst them again. I know it’s different and I’m the one being waited on this time but I still prefer to view my cinematic treasures at home.

Therefore, this leads me to something I discovered this past Saturday night, and that is how truly valuable children’s movies are sometimes at really having the ability to make you stop and think in a way that you would have never imagined. We own a wide variety of movies but at this time of the year when things are gloomy and drab outside anyway, I want to watch something that’s fun and uplifting. I just can’t take anything too dramatic during the droll, gray days of winter.

So, Graham and I decided that we would pull out one of our regular cartoon movies to watch again for the umpteenth time. Yes, I admit to watching cartoon movies as an adult and I’m not ashamed to say so. Many of them are some of the funniest things I’ve ever seen and the humor is not nearly as rude and crude as the adult variety of movies that seems to be playing in theaters as of late. I flatly refuse to watch Bridesmaids, HangOver, and some of the other counterparts to these movies where I feel as though I’m dropping brain cells by the minute.

Anyway, Disney Pixar’s “Cars” movie is one of our favorites and has a very good storyline in my estimation. After watching the movie again this past Saturday night, here are some real-world thoughts and ideas that I have taken away from such an endearing little film:

  • Winning is not the end-all be-all of life, there are more important things to consider
  • Having a few true friends who will tell you the truth is better than having no friends at all
  • Learn to stop and smell the roses along life’s path
  • Take a drive through the back roads and let all your cares melt away
  • Route 66 is an important part of our United States travel history, let’s not forget the impact it has had on many a family wending their way down the road on vacation
  • Look out for others and they will look out for you too
  • Wisdom is a powerful tool, don’t forget to respect your elders and learn from them too
  • In life the journey is far more important than just getting to the destination as fast as possible
  • What’s old is new again, as in the revival of Radiator Springs in the film, and of Route 66 too
  • Remember the good ole’ days of yesteryear when vacations had a completely different meaning than they do now

Yes, I must admit that as many times as I had seen that movie the other night, somehow now it’s suddenly taken on a whole new meaning for me. I really can appreciate the days of old now much better than I could as a teenager. Life is funny. Who would have thought that a cartoon about talking cars could make such an indelible impact on me? I never would have guessed it.

In the immortal words of Mater: “Ain’t no need to watch where I’m goin’; just need to know where I’ve been.” (Cars, 2006, IMDB)

For all those who love to travel the back roads and remember the cars of yesteryear….stay safe and happy traveling….




Patience is a virtue, says the one who has lots of it…and it’s not me..

Yes, indeed, patience is a virtue and I’m afraid at times that I have absolutely none of it. I try so very hard to be a patient person and to wait on the almighty when things get tough. However, I also know that I am somewhat of a control freak and a type A personality so that whole patience thing can get to be a real drag sometimes.

Waiting for something to happen is where my patience really gets tested, whether it be for a job promotion, a brand new job, packages waiting to be delivered through the mail, etc. Oh, how I wish that these people would stop and think for just a moment how they would feel if someone made them wait too. Of course, I know that in this day and age, we are all made to wait for something.

Here are some of those areas where I’ve had to wait before and it’s really tested my virtue:

  • grocery store checkout line
  • pharmacy checkout line
  • Fast-Food drive-thrus that are supposedly faster than going inside (ha)
  • waiting in a doctor’s office for over an hour when you know you have better things to be doing
  • waiting for a job opportunity to open up while still going about your normal daily tasks
  • waiting on customers in a public service job where they are starting to get a little uptight because you are not seeing them fast enough even though you are by yourself at the time
  • waiting for a dental appointment to begin and being nervous

Well, those are just a few of the things that drive me batty sometimes about the whole prospect of waiting and they really test my patience. How about the rest of you all about there in WordPress land? What are the things that drive you the craziest when it comes to waiting and patience?

Give me some feedback and let me know how you feel about this subject. I know that I will continue to seek the Lord in all things and try to remember that things don’t always happen on my time, but with God, He is always on time.

Best wishes…




Optimism on the coldest day of the year thus far…

On this bitterly cold, below-zero temp day in Kentucky what could I possibly write about that would be helpful not only to myself but also to others. I know that despite the temps outside that I am so grateful to be inside in a warm, toasty house with all the things of life surrounding me that are important to me. Well, actually, the most important of those would be my husband and parents, who aren’t here right at this moment, but they are inside too doing their own thing and that’s very comforting to me.

I heard on the television this morning via The Today Show with Kathie Lee and Hoda that today is supposedly the most depressing day of the year. At first, I thought this was rather odd but then after they started explaining the reasoning behind it then I began to better understand. Today is the first full day of the week to head back to work, which in and of itself sometimes is a drag, then you’ve got credit card bills coming due after the holidays, and the fact that we are in the heart of winter, which for some is okay, and for others not as much so. I happen to fall into that latter category as I have realized in my over-40dom that I really don’t like winter at all anymore. I don’t like being cold and I certainly don’t like the idea of being cooped up inside, even though I’m not the most outdoorsy person you’ll ever meet.

Anyway, the point is that people are feeling down today and I can somewhat understand that. I know that the first full week back to work after Christmas and New Years is very hard because you’re coming off an incredible holiday high of family, friends, food, etc. and now it’s back to the same old, same old stuff. However, I would like to think of this as a time to start afresh as my blog hinted at last week and a time of renewal. I also believe that this is a very good time to reflect on my current situation and just how blessed that I truly am.

So, with that said, today’s blog is going to be my list of what I have to be grateful for in this New Year:

  • My faith in a loving God
  • Starting to read the bible again all the way through, just as I did in 2012, except this time I’m using the New Living Translation instead of the King James, and it is so much easier to understand, thus far.
  • My wonderful, supportive, handsome, funny husband, Graham.
  • My unbelievable parents, Norman and Bettie, and just how much they truly mean to me. I’m just grateful that they are both still with us as they are in their 70s now.
  • My ability to work and hold down a very good job, even though I complain sometimes about how much work it is and how hard it can be…
  • My health, my husband’s health, my parents health, my friends health, etc.
  • My home and all of its contents, although it’s small, I love my house because it’s cozy
  • A new beginning in several different areas that I hope to explore in the new year
  • A new beginning for my husband in the area of his work and livelihood
  • Happy that all of our relatives seem to be doing quite well too at this time and wish them continued blessings throughout the year
  • Grateful for my FSU education and what it truly means in our family
  • Thankful for being warm on a cold, winter’s day…
  • Overall, just being thankful to be alive and to know that anything is possible with the Lord’s help…

Hmm, you know I’ve never typed out this kind of list before but I now see the value of doing so because it really does make you stop and realize just how lucky you are in life. I tend to gripe about this and that but I really am so extremely blessed and cognizant of the fact that I should never take any of it for granted.

So, my hope for anyone else out there who might be feeling low today, stop and really contemplate about what you do have going for you right now that is positive and good. I bet you can discover things that will surprise you. I know I feel better now about what I have going on in my life and I will try to take this with me on those days when it is harder to keep moving forward.

For all those out there having a hard time, here’s knowing that this day will come to a close soon, and that tomorrow is a new day with all the possibilities that life has to offer. Here’s hoping you will grab onto it and never let go…

Blessings always…

A New Beginning

Well, it looks as though we are in the final throes of 2013 as the hours quickly tick down on the old clock. I know personally that as much as I have been blessed in the past year on the one hand, I will also be very glad to bid a fond farewell to this year. I have endured a lot of new situations in my work this past year that have really tested and tried my patience in a variety of ways. My hope is that this coming year will be totally different as I have a little better understanding of what’s expected of me on the job.

Since I am not a big believer in New Year’s resolutions, I will instead wish for a new beginning in my life. There are several things that I have wanted to try to further pursue in this last year and I started out gung-ho about doing them and then it seems as though I have faltered here at the end. Therefore, I want to try harder to achieve some of my goals in the past for this new year 2014.

What would I like to accomplish in this New Year? Hmm, honestly I still have a desire to continue forward in my writing although my blog has shown a complete lack of me doing so for the past month. I wish I could say that I was extremely motivated to sit down and write every single day but there are days and times where the last thing that I want to do is to have to sit and write more. However, I would like to try and make a commitment of writing for my blog at least once a week at a regular time. I’m not promising anything but I am certainly going to try. I know that writing is like anything else that you want to do well in life. Practice makes perfect and if you don’t write on a regular basis then how do you expect to get any better at it.

I would also like to get back into reading more for pleasure. I know that as a librarian that seems like a rather odd statement to make but I really haven’t read anything for pleasure in quite some time. I have volunteered this year to help out in one of our book club selections for our group in May 2014 and perhaps this will help me get kick-started back into the habit. The truth is that I loved to read as a child and read many classics way back then. I think the reason why I did so is that I had a lot more time on my hands for one thing and I really could lose myself in a book back then. Now, I constantly feel as though when I am reading that I should be doing something else more constructive. I know I shouldn’t feel this way but I am always thinking ahead about another item on the horizon. I truly wish sometimes that I could just turn my brain off and tell myself that those things I am worrying about now will still be there when I get back to work.

Ahh, which brings me to another area in which I hope I can conquer this year. I want to try to live more in the moment and stop the incessant worrying I mentioned above. Why is it that I can have a day off and then somehow continue to fret about something that will take place at work? I really want to be able to stop this infernal reaction, and forgive me for the cliche, but “really stop and smell the roses.” As a 40+ year old, this becomes even more important with each passing year.

For instance, when I get ready to take a vacation, I don’t want to have to make a federal case out of it just in order to be able to go. It always seems as though there is a ton of planning just to go in the first place and then when I get back I know I have a ton of stuff waiting for me. This is not the way it should be although I’m sure that many of you can understand where I come from. A vacation should be a time away from everything and then when you get back it shouldn’t feel as though within a day’s time of returning that you wished you had never taken one in the first place. I wonder how much money you can make being a beach bum? Oh well, I digress.

Anyway, the point is this: I want to make some positive changes in my life in 2014 and I know that I will need all the help I can receive from my heavenly creator in order for all of it to come to pass. There is a verse in the bible that goes something like this: “For nothing is impossible with God.” (Luke 1:37) With His help, I know that it is true and I can achieve more than I ever imagined.

So, here’s looking forward to “everything that is possible” in the New Year.

Happy New Year 2014 to all of the bloggers on WordPress!!


To be grateful in life can mean many different things but on this particular day I am grateful for a variety of reasons and they don’t all necessarily go together. I started out having a decent day and then everything seemed to fall apart around noon time. However, even though I started to despair I remembered that I was still going to be able to have lunch with a former coworker that I literally hadn’t seen in a year since she retired last December.

This coworker has always been a friend, confidante, and faith-filled believer that I depended upon greatly when she and I worked together. I could always call on her at work to get advice and her take on things that happened on a daily basis. I really miss her in so many ways but that is one of the biggest ways in which I miss her daily presence. She always knew the right thing to say and would always do anything for anybody, no matter what the consequences. She was and is truly a wonderful person to have on my side.

I am truly blessed to have been able to have lunch with her today and be able to catch up on old times, telling her about everything going on at work and knowing full well that she understood where I was coming from. I was nervous at first to see her again after it being almost a year but it was funny in that as soon as I saw her I felt as though no time had passed at all. We just fell right back in to our old pattern of talking and chatting about what had been going on in our lives.

I will tell you that I ended up having an almost two-hour lunch with her today which I had already planned for and enjoyed every minute of it. She is one person that I didn’t want to have to be rushed in talking to on a typical work day. As it is, I am working a split anyway and will have to go back in later tonight to finish up my shift so I figured that gave me all the time in the world.

I am so grateful for the time that we had together today and just felt like sharing it with the rest of the blogosphere. We both agreed that we shouldn’t wait this long again to get together and I intend to keep that promise. True friends are hard to come by in this life and she is certainly one that I don’t ever want to lose touch with if I can help it.

So, my inspiration for today is named, Debby, and I will always treasure her and the words of advice that she gave me today. “God has you in the palm of his hand and he will always be with you, guiding you along the way…”

Thank you for a treasured friend…

Crisp, chilly Thursday afternoon

What a beautiful, crisp, fall afternoon in Kentucky. The air has just the right amount of nip in it to be enticing but not so much so that you have to be entirely bundled up either. I know I am looking forward to the 5 o’clock hour when I can be  off for the next 3 days in a row. My intentions are to be venture out to Louisville over the weekend with my folks and perhaps do some much-needed catching up on a few things at home too.

Sometimes I really wish that I could just have at least one day a week off from the drudge of work. I know that it helps to pay for the things that I need and want in life but it also gets to me some days with the same old thing, all the time. I really feel as though lately that I need a punch in the arm, so to speak, or something to help liven things up, in a good way, of course. On the other hand, certainty has always been something that I have cherished as well. There’s something very comforting about knowing that your schedule will be pretty much the same each day.

Ahh well, just one of those small conundrums of life that I like to ponder. I guess you could say that on some days I wish that I could have it all. I’ve always said that I love the idea of getting paid for a 40 hour work week but actually only working 20 hours and those hours would be 8-12 a.m. each day, no nights or weekends, and the ease and ability to take off whenever I wanted to. Yes, I know that I ask too much probably, but the older I get the more I wonder if I made the right decision sometimes in my career path. I certainly appreciate what it took to get to this point in my life as I have worked very hard but I also now realize that once I’ve achieved this point that it seems as though I am stuck with nowhere else to go. I would very much like to have a goal to work towards again. I believe that would help me out of my slump.

Anyway, this is just one of those days where I had a few minutes on my break time and thought I would start writing and see what came from my brain, down my arm and through the ends of my fingers. I never know what may inspire me from one moment to the next. Either way, I know I need to write more often. I apologize to those that have decided to follow me on this blog as I haven’t kept up my end of the bargain very well. I will try to work harder to post something at least once per week.

Yes, that will be my new goal. Thanks for listening and posting as always….